What your nervous system really needs — and how touch can help you feel safe again.
She was a high-achiever. Always in control. Always doing.
But one day she sat in my treatment room, fidgeting with her sleeve.
“I don’t really know how to relax,” she admitted.
“Even when I’m resting, my mind won’t stop. I think I’ve just… forgotten how.”
That wasn’t laziness. That wasn’t weakness.
That was her nervous system stuck in survival mode — and her body needed help coming home.
This is where massage becomes more than a luxury.
It becomes therapy for your nervous system — in the language it understands best: touch.
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Anxiety isn’t just in the mind. It’s in the body.
We often treat anxiety like it’s all mental — like if we could just think better, it would go away.
But anxiety is a physiological state, driven by:
•An overstimulated nervous system
•Shallow breathing
•Tense muscles (especially in the jaw, chest, shoulders)
•A constant sense of “readiness” in the body
Massage gives your system a physical experience of safety.
It tells your brain:
“You’re not under threat. You can stop now.”
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How massage supports the nervous system
When I work with anxious clients, I’m not just loosening knots.
I’m helping regulate their autonomic nervous system — the one responsible for whether you feel calm or overwhelmed.
Massage helps by:
•Activating the vagus nerve (the main calming nerve in the body)
•Reducing cortisol and adrenaline levels
•Increasing serotonin and dopamine (your natural feel-good chemicals)
•Slowing the heart rate and deepening the breath
•Creating a quiet, safe space where nothing is expected of you
This matters more than people realise — especially if you’ve been “on” for too long.
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What anxiety looks like in the body
Here are some common things I see in clients who live with anxiety:
•Raised, tight shoulders
•Clenched jaw or grinding teeth at night
•Tension headaches
•Twitching or restlessness
•Fatigue that feels deeper than tiredness
•A racing mind that won’t quiet, even when the body is still
Massage helps by working not just on these symptoms — but with them.
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What kind of massage helps anxiety?
I tailor the session depending on how your body shows anxiety.
✅ Neck & shoulder release – for chronic clenching and stress posture
✅ Jaw and scalp work – to release mental pressure and support sleep
✅ Back and chest opening – to reset the breath
✅ Gentle rhythmic strokes – to calm and ground the system
✅ Face massage – to soften expression and reconnect with calm
Some people need deep release. Others need barely-there touch.
The magic is in listening to your body — and adjusting the treatment with care.
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What clients feel afterward
•“I feel like I can breathe again.”
•“It’s like my thoughts slowed down.”
•“I didn’t know I was that tense until it was gone.”
•“It’s the first time in weeks I felt safe.”
These aren’t just relaxation responses. They’re nervous system shifts — the kind that can’t be forced through willpower alone.
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How often should you come for anxiety support?
Everyone is different. But here’s what works well for most of my clients:
•Every 2–3 weeks for maintenance and nervous system support
•Weekly during high-stress periods or when anxiety flares up
•Monthly if you already have other self-care systems in place
Over time, your body starts to learn that safety is available — and doesn’t need to stay alert all the time.
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Final thoughts: you don’t need to fight your anxiety — you can soothe it
Massage won’t erase your anxiety.
But it can give you a different experience of being in your body. One where you’re not on edge. One where rest feels possible again.
Your body already knows how to come back to calm.
It just needs the right signals.
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